Everyone want’s to change, but most people aren’t committed to changing!
You’re Not Committed
I’ll be honest with you. This topic is on the forefront of my mind lately.
I’m trying to make some changes in my own life, and it’s been a struggle.
I’m making some changes with my physical health, and at times it’s been physically difficult and emotionally difficult.
One of the things that I’ve noticed is that my commitment to change has it’s ups and downs.
Some days I’m all in, 100% committed.
I feel motivated and it feels kind of easy.
And then the very next day, all motivation is out the window, and I’m only committed if there are not major temptations.
Some of the questions I’ve been exploring lately are?
- Why am I not committed to this?
- What AM I committed to?
- What do I WANT to be committed to?
- Why DO I want to commit to this?
Have you ever heard the quote, “It’s easier to hold your principles 100 percent of the time than it is to hold them 98 percent of the time,.” by Clayton Christensen?
This is the principle of commitment. It’s easier to be 100% committed than 98% committed.
If you’re struggling to commit, to be committed, work on getting their mentally.
For me, it helps to explore WHY I want to be committed.
- I’m committed to being healthy because I want to be a healthy example to my kids.
- I want to be healthy because I want to live a long and quality life with my family.
- I want to be healthy so I can whoop up on my kids in sports.
Find your why and commit to it!
You’re Not Making Daily Progress
It sounds simple, but momentum builds momentum.
If you’re anything like me, one of the things that holds you back from making the changes you want to make is a lack of momentum.
It’s hard starting from zero, or negative $50,000, or plus 65 lbs.
Building momentum is a daily process, and the best way to build momentum is to make daily progress.
If you’ve been struggling to make the change you want to make, do these 2 simple things:
- Start today and do something small.
- Make a small and simple plan to do it again tomorrow.
Momentum builds momentum!
Start building momentum.
Continue building momentum.
BE an unstoppable force, constantly moving ever closer to your desired change.
You Don’t Have The Support You Need
Most people try to create change all on their own.
I get it.
You might be ashamed that you’ve let yourself get where you are today.
You might be embarrassed and trying to hide.
You might not believe that you can make the change you want.
Whatever your reason for doing it alone, you DON’T have to do it alone.
Get the support you need.
Inside of our Firmly Founded Family membership, we’ve seen countless parents and teens who have tried everything on their own, but once they got the help they needed, change was easy.
When you build a community around you, you get some huge benefits, like:
- Different Perspectives
- Examples of New Possibilities
Get the support you need, and start creating real change in your life.
You’re Old Ways Are Benefiting You
We do what we think benefits us.
Your habits and patterns are designed to continue getting you the old benefit that the original action, the start of the habit, once got you.
If you’re having a hard time making a change, explore these questions:
- How is this benefiting me?
- What benefit do I get from this?
- Why did I want this benefit?
- How is this no longer benefiting me?
- How would it benefit me to change?
One of the things that I like to do is to eat delicious food until I’m stuffed.
How does this benefit me?
It makes me feel good. It helps me relax.
Why did I want this benefit.
I learned to buffer with good food from a young age. It’s my family’s love language.
How is this no longer benefiting me?
It’s making me fat. It keeps me from being athletic and dominating my sons in basketball.
How would it benefit me to change?
I’d lose weight, be healthier, and dominate my kids in sports.
Now I can choose between two different benefits. Do I want to relax and feel good thanks to food and at the expense of my health, or do I want to lose weight, be healthy and dominate my kids in sports?
I want to choose the latter result.
It’s Part Of Your Identity
It’s really hard to go against your identity.
This is one of the reasons it’s so hard for smokers to quit. They identify as “Smokers”.
It’s easy to identify as your old self or your old habits, but it’s not helpful.
Just because you like food, or you’ve struggled to lose weight doesn’t mean you’re a “foodie” or an addict.
Just because you’ve yelled at your kids doesn’t make you a “yeller.”
Part of what holds you back from making the change you want to make is seeing yourself as you are, or as you used to be, but not being able to see yourself for who you are becoming.
Want to make a powerful change?
Than shift your identity.
Start BEing that dream version of yourself today.
See where you are right now, and create the story in your mind of how it connects to where you want to be.
You’re Making It Harder Than It Needs To Be
Sometimes we make change harder than it needs to be.
Explore how the change you want to make can actually be easy.
I’ve had clients that after exploring how their change could actually be easy found that it actually was easy.
One client wanting to quit eating certain foods realized that it is actually easier to not buy them than it is to buy them.
It cost less money, took less trips to the store, and made her life healthier and easier.
Don’t fall into the trap of making your change harder than it has to be simply because it’s hard for others, or you thought it would be hard.