What’s the Best Gift You Give Your Teen?
This time of year, parents around the world are wondering what to give their teens.
They want the perfect gift. One that their teen will like and actually use.
Parents are looking for that gift that’s stylish enough that their teen will like it, but timeless enough that it will last.
The truth is, the perfect gift for your teen has more to do with you that you probably realize.
So, here is a list of the top 5 things that I think are awesome gifts for any teen.
My Top 5 Gifts for Teens List:
#1 Belief and Trust In Your Teen
One of the most powerful gifts that you can give your teen is belief in your teen.
Think about it, don’t you love it when people believe in you?
This can look like believing in their potential, in their goodness, in their value, in their dreams and hopes, anything.
One of the things that I’ve heard a lot from parents lately is that they want to trust their teen, but they don’t trust them.
Give your teen the gift of trust.
Yes, they might lie to you, but trust that they are doing their best. Trust that they will be okay.
Yes, in the moment, it doesn’t seam like they will be okay, but I promise, they will be okay.
Your teen wants to belief in themselves.
Show them how by being the example of believing in your teen.
#2 Acceptance and Belonging
One of the most fundamental human needs is the need to belong.
One of the things that makes people feel like they don’t belong is when people try to change them.
I get it, you’re teen might be making some really poor decisions right now, but find a ways to show them that they belong.
Find ways to show them that you accept them as they are.
This is a powerful gift that you can give your teen any time of the year.
#3 Your Own Self-Work and Growth
I know, this is something that I talk about all the time, but it’s still true so I’m going to keep talking about it.
Give your teen the gift of YOUR own self work.
You are a circumstance in your teens model.
There are things that you do everyday that impact your teen.
If you’re like me, there are things that you do as a parent that you want to do better.
Give your teen that gift, of doing the best that you can by working on yourself and growing.
One of the things that I hear all the time from the people that I work with, and their teens, “working with you has changed everything in our family.”
Or, “I don’t know what you guys do on your coaching calls, but keep doing it because it’s working.”
These are things that I hear from spouses and teens.
Your own personal growth will have a bigger impact on your teen that you will ever fully know.
#4 Values Based Connection
We talked about this last week, so I’m not going to spend a lot of time on it, but build values based connections with your teen.
If you want to know more about that, go listen to last week’s podcast.
#5 Their Own Personal Coach
I know, I know.
I’m a coach, of course I’m going to suggest getting your teen a coach.
I am, and yes, I’m biased, but. . .
I’ve seen coaching change lives.
It has changed my life.
I’ve seen it work in countless teen’s lives.
I know the power that coaching can have in a teen’s life.
I have had teens tell me things like, “You’re my favorite person to talk to,” or “What we talk about helps me feel less anxious at school.”
If you feel like you’ve tried everything with your teen, I would recommend to try two more things.
First, get your own coach.
And second, get your teen their own coach.
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