Have You Thought About Getting Coaching for Your Teen?
I get it. Parents all over the world are looking for support for their teens, and if you’re like most parents, you’re probably always on the lookout for something that might be beneficial to them.
Especially with back-to-school right around the corner, and a lot of teens experiencing dread and anxiety over returning to school, there are a lot of parents looking for someone to help their teens
Is Coaching Effective with Teens?
Coaching is not for everyone.
In fact, I don’t think that coaching is the solution to everything.
I am actually very hesitant anytime people ask about coaching for their teens or kids.
One of the problems I see with coaching teens is that the parent blames their teen for the problems that are going on in the relationship and then the teen starts to take on that same perspective and starts seeing themselves as the problem, which can add to anxiety and a lack of self-trust.
I actually believe that the best first step is for the parent to try BEing the change that they are looking for in their teen or child.
Often this might include getting coaching for the parent first.
Having said all of that, with the right teen, and the right coach, coaching can be HIGHLY EFFECTIVE with teens.
I’ve seen countless teens change their lives because of the support that they received from a coach.
How to Know If Coaching Is Right For Your Teen
So, if you’ve thought about getting a coach for your teen, here are some things to consider to help you know if coaching is right for your teen or not.
By the way, these are not hard fast rules. I’ve broken these rules in my own coaching and still seen success.
These are simply guidelines to help you make the best decision for you and your teen.
#1 Does Your Teen Want Help/Coaching?
This is definitely my most important criteria.
I don’t like coaching people who don’t want coaching.
Think about it, has anyone ever tried to help you when you didn’t want help?
Did you like it?
If you’re anything like me, probably not.
If your teen doesn’t want coaching, coaching is probably not going to help them as much as you’d like it to.
There’s an old saying, “You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make them drink.”
The same is true for your teen.
You can get them the best life coach that money can buy, but you can’t make them change.
#2 Is Your Teen Willing To Help Make It Happen?
This is not an absolute must, but I have seen a difference between my clients who make sacrifices to help make coaching work vs my clients who coaching is simply given to them.
I’ve had teens pay for their 1:1 coaching with me completely on their own!
Most of them have been 18-20 years old.
When your teen pays for their own coaching, something magical happens.
They are more invested.
They participate more.
They miss less calls.
I’m not saying that your teen needs to pay for coaching all on their own, but if they’re willing to help make it happen, it’s a pretty good indicator that they’re ready for coaching.
I’ve had clients earn extra money babysitting, washing window, and doing more chores around the house to help pay for their coaching.
It makes a difference.
#3 Are YOU Willing To Lead By Example?
I can’t control this one. So it’s not a big factor for me, but I’ll tell you what I’ve observed over the years.
Teens who have parents getting coaching and working to change and grow are more successful with their own coaching and efforts to grow.
One of the most powerful things you can do to help your teen be successful with a coach or in creating a change, is for you to get a coach and do your own work.
Some of the most powerful transformations are with teens who’s parents are in my parenting program, both working on the same things, learning the same principles.
FREE Teen Relationship Tune-up
If you want to take this to the next level, I’d like to give you my FREE Teen Relationship Tune-up training.
In only 15 minutes, you can completely fix your relationship with your teen.
Imagine enjoying your teen, laughing together and doing fun things together because you have an impactful relationship with them.
It’s as simple as:
- Committing to Love,
- So you can have purpose and direction in even the toughest of parenting moments.
- Respecting Their Process,
- So you can show them that you do trust them.
- Stop Trying to Control/Fix Them,
- So you can finally be in control of YOU and your parenting. And,
- Taking 100% Responsibility for YOUR relationship with them,
- So you can stop being the victim, at the mercy of your teen, and start BEING the parent of your dreams!