You Want to Learn How to Set Better Boundaries!

First off, if you haven’t listened to last week’s episode How to Set Better Boundaries, go listen here!

A lot of parents of teens have asked me about setting boundaries lately.

And, I’ve seen a lot of parents make the mistake of trying to use boundaries to control their teens, and the truth is, that just doesn’t work. 

So, I’m putting together a free workshop to help parents like you, set boundaries that actually empower your teen and help the two of you work together.

Since you and so many parents replied to me telling me that “they “YES!” you are interested in attending a FREE workshop with me on Building Better Boundaries WITH Your Teen, I’ve decided to do 3 workshops!

These workshops are for YOU! If you’re listening to this podcast, you’re invited. These workshops are for parents of teens, whether you’re a member of IMPACT Parenting or not!

You can even invite your friends.

You’re Not Alone

If you HATE boundaries, you’re not alone.

If your teen HATES boundaries, you’re not alone and neither is your teen.

Remember back to when you were a teen, did you like boundaries or not?

The truth is, some teens actually like boundaries. They like the structure. They like the sense of security that boundaries gives them. They like knowing what the rules are, following those rules, and feeling a sense of safety and accomplishment for following those rules.

BUT, there are a lot of teens who hate boundaries. They don’t like the structure, and they feel restricted and held back. And, if you’re listening to this podcast, you probably have a teen who falls into the second example.

Now take a minute and remember back to when you were a teen. Did you like boundaries or not? Did you push the limits or play within the limits?

There’s no “right” or “wrong” here. I think I was a little of both. Sometimes I liked boundaries, especially in sports, because they make things more predictable and orderly and safe, but I’ll be honest with you, I thought most of my parents’ boundaries were overbearing, controlling, and unfair.

There’s no “right” or “wrong” ways to do boundaries, but there are some things to understand that will help make boundaries easier, and the first thing to understand is the main reasons parents and teens hate boundaries.

Top 3 Reasons Parents Hate Boundaries

Number 1. I don’t like fighting with my teen.

If you’re like most parents, you probably don’t like fighting with your teen either. And, like tons of parents, boundaries might be a huge source of conflict in your home.

Number 2. I don’t like telling my teen what to do.

Most parents don’t actually like telling their teen what to do, and if you’re like me and the parents I work with, you don’t like it either. In fact, you probably wish your teen would just do things without being told, am I right?

Number 3. I don’t know how to set better boundaries.

Most parents have no clue that there’s a better way to set boundaries. And, if you’re like many parents, you don’t really know how to set better boundaries, but you know there’s got to be a better way than this.

Fortunately, there is a better way, and I’ll tell you about it in just a minute.

But first, let’s explore why teens hate boundaries so much.

Top 3 Reasons Teens Hate Boundaries

Number 1. I don’t like fighting with my parents.

I’ve worked with teens for a very long time. I was a foster parent for teens for 10 years, I’ve been a football coach for at least 10 seasons, I was a teacher for 6 years and a high school principal for 5 years, and I’ve been a life coach for teens for years, and on top of all of that, I remember being a teen.

And, the truth is, your teen doesn’t like fighting with you any more than you like fighting with them.

Number 2. I don’t like being told what to do.

One of the things that teens tell me all the time is, “I hate it when my parents think they have to tell me what to do, right when I was about to do it on my own anyway.”

If you think back on your teenage years, you probably didn’t like being told what to do either.

Number 3. The boundaries aren’t fair.

This one is HUGE. One of the reasons teens hate boundaries is because they don’t feel like they are fair. Fortunately, this is an easy problem to address. If your teen doesn’t think your boundaries are fair, find opportunities to give them a voice and a say in some of the boundaries at your home.

There’s a Better Way to do Boundaries

There is a common belief among parents that boundaries are hard, and they suck, and they always lead to fighting.

It makes sense that parents would think this way, because a lot of parents experienced boundaries this way as teens, and they’ve gone on to handle boundaries similarly to how their parents did.

But, this doesn’t have to be true. In fact, it’s possible to do boundaries in a way that you and your teen both appreciate the boundary and feel like it’s fair and beneficial.

The truth is, if you’re tired of fighting with your teen over boundaries, your teen is most likely tired of fighting with you too! And, as much as you would like your teen to work with you and buy into the boundaries, your teen would like you to work with them and give them a reason to buy into boundaries.

So, do you want to keep fighting with your teen over boundaries that suck, or do you want to start doing boundaries in a better way that’s easy, that will empower your teen, and that will connect you and your teen?

Step 1 – Go Register for the FREE Workshop!

Step 2 – Block our your calendar so you can attend the workshop LIVE.

Step 3- End the fighting and arguing over boundaries FOREVER!

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