BE A Positive IMPACT in Your Teen’s Life

If you’re like most parents, you probably want to have a positive impact in your teen’s life.

If you don’t want to have a positive impact in your teen’s life, you’re listening to the wrong podcast.

If you’re wanting to change your teen, control your teen, or fix your teen, you’re probably not having the impact that you’d like to have on your teen, because those ways of parenting will have a negative impact on your teen.

So, I wanted to share with you the 7 most powerful things that I see IMPACTFUL Parents doing. If you’re in my membership, IMPACT, you’ve seen parents do this. In fact, you might be one of the parents that I’m referencing. If you’re not in the membership yet, this will get you started down the path of having a powerful impact on your teen’s life.

IMPACTFUL Parents Do This . . .

#1 Enjoy the Journey

I was talking with a mom the other day who told me something along the lines of, “I can’t wait until my teenager moves out of the house.” In her mind, she’s focused on the destination, her teen leaving home, and thinking that then she’ll be able to enjoy life. I’m sorry to break it to you, but you’re going to look back and miss the journey.

So, find ways to enjoy the journey. Embrace the process. Appreciate the struggles and the growth. Make the journey and adventure, a fun road trip, a party with a purpose.

Want to BE and impactful parent? Enjoy the journey!!

#2 Make Connection the Priority

This one can be tricky. A lot of parents who are stuck in the “Controlling parent trap” are making correction or compliance the priority, and as a result, their connection with their teen is suffering.

Your connection with yourself also plays a powerful role in your connection with your teen. If you don’t fully love yourself, it will be hard to fully love your teen. Let me give you an example. Say your teen comes to you and says, “Mom, can I have $10?” If you don’t have $10, it’s going to be hard to give your teen $10. And, if you’re like me, your teen’s are often asking for more than $10.

Bottom line is, you can’t give something that you yourself don’t have. If you want a better connection with your teen, start by building a better connection with yourself. Make connection the priority. Ask yourself empowering questions like, “How is my own connection?” or “How could I better connect with myself?” or “How could I better connect with my teen?”

Want more impact in your teen’s life? Create deeper connection!

#3 See Opportunities when Others See Obstacles

We live in a world that loves obstacles. Obstacles give us excuses to quit, or to not reach our potential. Seeing obstacles is easier and safer than seeing opportunities. Opportunities can be challenging, difficult, and scary, but that’s a powerful mindset to operate from as a parent.

In my membership, I teach about the difference between the Hero mindset and the Victim mindset. We’re not going to go into that whole thing, but understand that if you’re getting hung-up on the obstacles, your in the victim mentality. If you’re programmed to see the opportunities, you’re in the hero mentality.

We live in a world where most people focus on the obstacle. Most parents are stuck in the victim trap, but if you want to have a profound impact on your teen’s life practice being in the hero mindset.

I’m not saying that you won’t see obstacles. What I’m saying is that you’ll start seeing obstacles and opportunities as the same thing, just viewed through different lenses. Obstacles and opportunities are simply different sides of the exact same coin.

When you see an obstacle, like “My teen’s failing math”, find an opportunity. “I’m going to order some pizza, and we’re going to work on math together while having a pizza party together.” Every obstacle is an opportunity if you choose to find it.

Want to have more impact in your teen’s life, and be way happier? Start interpreting obstacles as opportunities.

#4 Manage Their Own Model

If you’ve listened to me for a while, or followed other coaches who teach the Self-Coaching Model like Brooke Castillo, Jody Moore, or Marika Humphreys (my personal coach at the moment), you are familiar with the concept of Circumstances, Thoughts, Feelings, Actions, and Results.

I love the Self-Coaching Model. I teach it inside the membership. One of the biggest problems that I see when it comes to the Self-Coaching Model, and coaches are the worst at this! So if you’re a life coach yourself, listen up!

The biggest mistake that I see when it comes to the Self-Coaching Model is trying to manage or manipulate someone else’s model.

Let’s all just agree to stop doing this!

You can only manage your own model. It’s your teen’s job to manage theirs, your spouses job to manage theirs, your bosses job to manage theirs, and your mother-in-laws job to manage hers.

The better you get at managing your own Self-Coaching Model, the better you will model how to manage your own model, and the better you will demonstrate the benefits of managing your own model.

Want more impact on your teen’s life? Manage your own model.

#5 Control ONLY Their Controllables (Next Week’s Episode)

#6 Practice On the Top of The Wheel (Next Week’s Episode)

#7 Model the BEhavior They Want to See (Next Week’s Episode)

SPECIAL Bonus: (Next Week’s Episode)

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