No Trauma Police Needed
I’m not here to tell you whether or not you’ve experienced trauma, or whether your trauma is little “t” trauma or BIG “T” trauma.
The thing about trauma is that it impacts everyone differently. What’s traumatic to me, might not even hit your radar, and vice versa.
There can be something in your life that seemed very traumatic but others wouldn’t think twice about it.
One of the things that gives trauma even more power, is when people try to police the idea of trauma and what is traumatic and what isn’t and who has been traumatized and who hasn’t.
Bottom line is, I want to help you better understand trauma, especially your own, so yo will be better equipped to handle trauma with confidence and purpose.
Two Things Nobody’s Talking About
It seems like a lot of people are talking about generational trauma, which is trauma that is handed down from generation to generation.
This is a good start! It’s helpful to be aware of things like this.
You might have heard people talk about generational trauma and wonder how to stop it, or how to help the next generation, or maybe even talking about who’s to blame for the trauma.
But, it seems that everyone is missing the most important part of the equation, and that part is YOU.
I totally get it. In the world that we live in, most people would rather shift the responsibility of healing from trauma over to the person or thing they blame for their trauma.
Another thing people aren’t talking about is the many different ways that trauma can show up in your life, or the lives of your loved ones, especially your teen.
Trauma is Programming
Okay, let’s get into the first thing that I teach that often triggers people when it comes to talking about trauma.
Trauma is programming.
I’ve been accused of oversimplifying when I say this, but honestly, I’d rather over simplify than over complicate.
For me, seeing trauma, and the way individuals respond to trauma, as programming is empowering. I’ve experienced trauma and being able to identify my response is empowering.
Some examples of generational trauma might be:
- Drug and alcohol abuse
- Obesity
- Poverty
- Prejudice
- Abuse
- Yelling
Do you have any generational traumas or programming that you could heal?
In my family, there are programs that I’m working to reprogram around food, health, money, and relationship.
You, and ONLY YOU Are Responsible for Healing YOUR Trauma
Okay, the second thing that I teach that often triggers people is that YOU and ONLY YOU are responsible for your trauma.
Now, let me be perfectly clear. You ARE NOT to blame for your trauma.
I was molested when I was a child. I’m not to blame for that. I’m not responsible for it happening, but I am responsible for what I choose to do with it.
I can’t make my babysitter undo it, or heal it for me. I have to do that work.
My daughter nearly got attacked by a dog. It was very traumatic for her. She didn’t want to do sleepovers with her cousins because she was so afraid of dogs.
We couldn’t get the dog to undue that trauma. Would couldn’t get the dog’s owner to change the past. My daughter had to do her work to heal that trauma.
To almost quote Smokey the Bear, “Only YOU can . . . ” heal your trauma.
You Have the Power to Heal Generational Trauma
When it comes to your trauma, you can continue reinforcing it and possibly pass it down, or you can heal it for yourself and potentially for future generations.
If you leave trauma unresolved, it will continue to resurface.
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