Stop Blaming and/or Making Excuses
This morning as I was waking up, I had a dream that I was reffing a little league football game. The dream was similar to a real life experience I had this summer, and I feel that I’m meant to share it with you.
This summer, while reffing, one game in particular, the coaches kept blaming the refs, me and another ref, for bad calls or no calls. I tried to explain to the coach exactly what I was looking for and why I wasn’t making the call he was looking for.
Rather than coach up his players and help them be better, he kept blaming “the bad refs”. The more he blamed the refs, the more his players started blaming the refs. Then, the parents started blaming the refs.
Then after the game, I overheard his post game speech, in which he told his players that the loss wasn’t on them, it was on the poor officiating.
The problem with blaming and making excuses is it takes all responsibility from the person doing the blaming and making excuses.
Rather than embracing the opportunity to coach up his players, and help them get better, he told his players, you have no responsibility here. You’re just a victim at the mercy of the refs.
If you want to reach your goals and dreams, catch yourself blaming, making excuses, complaining, or even criticizing. See it for what it is. It’s disempowering. It’s you focusing on someone or something outside of your control. And, it’s holding you back!
BE The Change You Want to See!
If you’re anything like me and the other parents that I work with and that listen to this podcast, there are things in your life that you’d like to change.
Also if you’re like me and other parents here, you’re probably guilty of seeing the changes you’d like to make in your teen.
I want to invite you to BE The Change You Want to See!
I know it sounds simple. I know it sounds like it won’t actually change anything, but I promise you it will change EVERYTHING!
If you feel pulled to improve your health, but you think, “That’s not going to change my relationship with my teen,” or “That’s not going to change my financial situation,” I invite you to trust the pull. Trust your inner wisdom. Take control of the little things that you can control and then wait and see how they impact things outside of your control.
I’ve worked with countless parents who wanted me to somehow change their teens. But, when they took it upon themselves to BE The Change, they were amazed at how much their teen then changed.
BE The Change!
You’ve got this.
