Each day practice being the parent of your dreams.
My Top Ten Daily Habits for Parenting Success
Set Your Intention Each Day
Last thing before you go to bed, set your intention for the following day.
First thing when you wake up in the morning, remind yourself of and commit to your intention.
Here’s some examples from my life.
Today I will listen with curiosity, patience, and love.
Today I will develop awareness around my emotions.
Today I will be fun, energetic, and engaged with my children.
Today I will learn a new way to connect with my 15 year old son.
Commit to Connection Daily
Be 100% committed to connect to your teen.
Choose to love your teen.
Show them that you love them.
Show them that you are confident that they will be okay.
Let them know that you trust that EVERYTHING will be okay.
Connect with them right where they are.
Stay calm, listen, treat your teen with kindness and fairness, and do your best to let them know that you aren’t mad and that you love and care about them.
Embrace the Moment
Far too often we are guilty of not being present.
Don’t try to avoid the moment.
Don’t try to fix, change, or improve it.
BE IN THE MOMENT.
Be in the moment WITH your teen!
Manage Your Mind
I like to use the Self-Coaching Model
I also like to use the Be, Do, Have Model.
I am starting to get into journaling and writing.
Sharing what I’ve learned with others.
Trust Yourself, Your Teen, and the Process
This one is HUGE for me this year.
Trust will change everything.
You are exactly what your teen need, they are exactly what you need and want, and the process you two are experiencing is exactly what you need.
Let Go Of Things Outside of Your Control
This is hard, but so powerful.
When you hold onto things outside of your control, you lose power and energy.
When you let go, you have more power and energy to put towards things within your control.
Let go of your teen’s model and manage your own!
Practice, Practice, Practice
One of my favorite lessons, and one I came up with myself, is the “Wheel of Time.”
When you’re on the top of the wheel, practice and prepare for when you are on the bottom.
When you’re on the bottom of the wheel, just keep going and do your best to do what you practiced at the top of the wheel.
Life is all about practice and improvement.
It doesn’t have to be pretty or perfect.
Be Willing to Be Wrong and/or Make Mistakes
One of the things that divides parents and teens is when one or both of them are committed to being “Right!”
Be willing to be wrong.
Let your teen be “Right!”
Be willing to make mistakes.
Be the example of what to do when you make mistakes.
Be The Change You Want to See
This is one of my favorite saying and teachings.
If you want your teen to be something else, YOU Be that change!
If you want your teen to be more confident, YOU Be more confident in both your teen and yourself.
Play to Your Strengths
Last but not least, play to your strengths.
Yes, you have weaknesses, and if you’re listening to this podcast you probably want to address your weaknesses, but trust your strengths.
God gave you strengths that are unique to you.
Trust them and use them!
Call to ACTION!
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Things we discuss:
Importance of self-awareness and understanding one’s strengths and values.
How the Umap assessment helps identify teenagers’ strengths and interests.
The significance of using the assessment results for scholarship and college applications.
Exploring the application of the assessment in improving relationships between parents and teens.
The potential benefits of taking action based on the insights gained from the YouMap assessment.
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I want to walk you through my 10 favorite things to teach parents.
In fact, these principles are not only my favorite things to teach, but the things that the parents I work with consistently tell me have had the most impact on their lives.
So, over the next several episodes, you’ll get access to my top 10 favorite principles.
And, I’m going to teach them in the order that I think would be most beneficial to you.
Habits Are Underrated and Underutilized
Every year around New Year’s, everyone starts talking about goals.
This is awesome, I think everyone should have goals.
The problem is, with out habits, your goals are little more than dreams.
If you want to accomplish your goals, you need to identify, “What habits will it take to accomplish my goal?”
Powerful Parenting Habits
Set Your Intention Each Day
Last thing before you go to bed, set your intention for the following day.
First thing when you wake up in the morning, remind yourself of and commit to your intention.
Here’s some examples from my life.
Today I will listen with curiosity, patience, and love.
Today I will develop awareness around my emotions.
Today I will be fun, energetic, and engaged with my children.
Today I will learn a new way to connect with my 15 year old son.
Commit to Connection Daily
Be 100% committed to connect to your teen.
Choose to love your teen.
Show them that you love them.
Show them that you are confident that they will be okay.
Let them know that you trust that EVERYTHING will be okay.
Connect with them right where they are.
Stay calm, listen, treat your teen with kindness and fairness, and do your best to let them know that you aren’t mad and that you love and care about them.
Embrace the Moment
Far too often we are guilty of not being present.
Don’t try to avoid the moment.
Don’t try to fix, change, or improve it.
BE IN THE MOMENT.
Be in the moment WITH your teen!
Manage Your Mind
I like to use the Self-Coaching Model
I also like to use the Be, Do, Have Model.
I am starting to get into journaling and writing.
Sharing what I’ve learned with others.
Trust Yourself, Your Teen, and the Process
This one is HUGE for me this year.
Trust will change everything.
You are exactly what your teen need, they are exactly what you need and want, and the process you two are experiencing is exactly what you need.
Let Go Of Things Outside of Your Control
This is hard, but so powerful.
When you hold onto things outside of your control, you lose power and energy.
When you let go, you have more power and energy to put towards things within your control.
Let go of your teen’s model and manage your own!
Practice, Practice, Practice
One of my favorite lessons, and one I came up with myself, is the “Wheel of Life.”
When you’re on the top of the wheel, practice and prepare for when you are on the bottom.
When you’re on the bottom of the wheel, just keep going and do your best to do what you practiced at the top of the wheel.
Life is all about practice and improvement.
It doesn’t have to be pretty or perfect.
Be Willing to Be Wrong and/or Make Mistakes
One of the things that divides parents and teens is when one or both of them are committed to being “Right!”
Be willing to be wrong.
Let your teen be “Right!”
Be willing to make mistakes.
Be the example of what to do when you make mistakes.
Be The Change You Want to See
This is one of my favorite saying and teachings.
If you want your teen to be something else, YOU Be that change!
If you want your teen to be more confident, YOU Be more confident in both your teen and yourself.
Play to Your Strengths
Last but not least, play to your strengths.
Yes, you have weaknesses, and if you’re listening to this podcast you probably want to address your weaknesses, but trust your strengths.
God gave you strengths that are unique to you.
Trust them and use them!
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Each day practice being the parent of your dreams.
My Top Ten Daily Habits for Parenting Success
Set Your Intention Each Day
Last thing before you go to bed, set your intention for the following day.
First thing when you wake up in the morning, remind yourself of and commit to your intention.
Here’s some examples from my life.
Today I will listen with curiosity, patience, and love.
Today I will develop awareness around my emotions.
Today I will be fun, energetic, and engaged with my children.
Today I will learn a new way to connect with my 15 year old son.
Commit to Connection Daily
Be 100% committed to connect to your teen.
Choose to love your teen.
Show them that you love them.
Show them that you are confident that they will be okay.
Let them know that you trust that EVERYTHING will be okay.
Connect with them right where they are.
Stay calm, listen, treat your teen with kindness and fairness, and do your best to let them know that you aren’t mad and that you love and care about them.
Embrace the Moment
Far too often we are guilty of not being present.
Don’t try to avoid the moment.
Don’t try to fix, change, or improve it.
BE IN THE MOMENT.
Be in the moment WITH your teen!
Manage Your Mind
I like to use the Self-Coaching Model
I also like to use the Be, Do, Have Model.
I am starting to get into journaling and writing.
Sharing what I’ve learned with others.
Trust Yourself, Your Teen, and the Process
This one is HUGE for me this year.
Trust will change everything.
You are exactly what your teen need, they are exactly what you need and want, and the process you two are experiencing is exactly what you need.
Let Go Of Things Outside of Your Control
This is hard, but so powerful.
When you hold onto things outside of your control, you lose power and energy.
When you let go, you have more power and energy to put towards things within your control.
Let go of your teen’s model and manage your own!
Practice, Practice, Practice
One of my favorite lessons, and one I came up with myself, is the “Wheel of Time.”
When you’re on the top of the wheel, practice and prepare for when you are on the bottom.
When you’re on the bottom of the wheel, just keep going and do your best to do what you practiced at the top of the wheel.
Life is all about practice and improvement.
It doesn’t have to be pretty or perfect.
Be Willing to Be Wrong and/or Make Mistakes
One of the things that divides parents and teens is when one or both of them are committed to being “Right!”
Be willing to be wrong.
Let your teen be “Right!”
Be willing to make mistakes.
Be the example of what to do when you make mistakes.
Be The Change You Want to See
This is one of my favorite saying and teachings.
If you want your teen to be something else, YOU Be that change!
If you want your teen to be more confident, YOU Be more confident in both your teen and yourself.
Play to Your Strengths
Last but not least, play to your strengths.
Yes, you have weaknesses, and if you’re listening to this podcast you probably want to address your weaknesses, but trust your strengths.
God gave you strengths that are unique to you.
Trust them and use them!
Call to ACTION!
Come join me in the Firmly Founded Parent Membership!
When you judge your teens, you disconnect with them.
“When I pull back and look at the big picture, does it matter if my kid sleeps all day? (. . .) In the big scheme of things, it really doesn’t matter.” ~ Marika Humphreys
“It was helpful to question and really let go of my expectations of what I thought my kid should be doing, and that was the gateway towards acceptance of who my child really is, and now I see them as the amazing kid they are.” ~ Marika Humphreys
“I stopped judging my kid, and I know I’m closer to them than ever before.” ~ Marika Humphreys
What if What You Think Is A Problem, Isn’t a Problem.
Many of the problems that we see, are only “problems” because the world around us tells us they are problems.
Often, it’s our judgement that something is a problem that creates our emotional discomfort.
Don’t Try to Control, Change, and/or Fix Their Kids
When we can let go of control, we start to connect with our teens.
I Have the Confidence to Trust MYSELF and MY Teen
It’s my job to foster who my kids are, and I can do that! I am the best parent to do this.
